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Say Hi

My son is nonverbal. He’s closer to two than one in age and is the size of an average three year old closer to four in age. He’s got giant brown eyes and curly almost blonde hair. His cheeks dance a samba when he runs and his feet are what we call “cornish hens.” He’s…
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Dance Like Nobody’s Watching

I discovered a love of EDM in the basement of a local concert hall. The side door entry club was cleverly called “The BASSment”. It was an all ages club that booked electronic dance music DJs. This was the early 2000’s and the term “EDM” wasn’t as popular as it is today. Club goers were…
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Hi, My Name Is…

Blythe Baird in her book, “If My Body Could Speak,” writes “I used to find empowerment in labels, Now I feel suffocated by them.” I felt that in my core. When I was a kid, I wanted to be PRETTY. I wanted to be SMART. I was a WRITER. When I was an adolescent, I…
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Social Media Detox – How It’s Going

Back in April 2022, I decided to take a break from social media, more specifically: Instagram and Facebook. I could not stop myself from scrolling Instagram in any free moment I had. I would “just check” the app at least 100 times a day. Facebook was not as frequent, but I couldn’t remember a recent…
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Schema Theory

Schemas develop as behaviors that were once helpful in childhood but are exaggerated in adulthood. This overview is taken from Tara Bennett-Goleman’s ‘Emotional Alchemy’. I highly recommend giving it a read. It provides a much more in depth look at schemas, how they are formed, how they become maladaptive, and how to develop healthier responses…
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Idols and Schema Theory

In “Women Don’t Owe You Pretty” by Florence Given, she writes: “You are not in love with your idols – they are just mirroring the greatness that already exists within you.” I found this fascinating. I am consumed with why we become fascinated with the things that fascinate us. My 8-year old is constantly asking…
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30 Days Without Social Media

Thirty days ago, I would have been awakened by a stream of sunlight pushing through the half inch gap in my bedroom shade. I would have reached over to my phone on my nightstand to confirm that it was indeed time to get up. My barely awake face would look enough like me for the…
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Imposter

Will they like me If I am notFakeOn the Internet?
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Chicago Amber

I lived in a studio apartment on the South Side of Chicago the first year after high school. It was a few minutes ride into the Loop (essentially downtown Chicago). I found the public bus to be unreliable so I would often walk the couple miles to my Michigan Avenue university. On the breaks in…
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Purpose

What is purpose? Do you need one? It used to be that you were born into a purpose. If your father made shoes, you grew to learn how to make shoes and provide footwear for the community. If your family were the doctors, you grew to learn how to care for the sick and injured. …
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